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Next time your RADish gets 'sick' (you know, the "I can't do anything you say because I'M SICK" routine) try this to put some humour into your day:
Take your child's temperature. Study the thermometer, clear your throat, and recite:
"Therapeutic,
Elephantic,
Diagnosis,
BOOM!
Pancreatic,
Microstatic,
Anti-toxic,
DOOM!
With normal catabolism,
Gabbleism and babbleism,
snip, snap, snorum
Cut out his abdonorum.
Dyspepsia,
Anaemia,
Toxaemia,
One, two, three,
and out goes he,
With a fol-de-rol-derido for the Five Guinea Fee."
Take their tempurate again, study the thermometer, and walk away.
Poem from Merlyn in The Sword in the Stone
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found this "Object Lesson" on a site for parenting kids on the autism spectrum. It is true for all children though. And adults, too!
(You will need a partner to do this with you.)
Close your eyes. Have the other person say this while your eyes are shut:
"No. I said NO. Stop it! No, you can't have that. I said NO!! Stop! Why aren't you listening?! STOP IT! I SAID NO!! Why won't you stop?! NO!!!"
(Say it as you would if you were really annoyed with someone or something.)
Open your eyes and switch roles.
Ask your self:
-How did I feel?
-Did I get defensive?
-Did I want to listen?
-How did my body feel?
-Did I get tense?
If you're like me, you started to feel a little panicky and defensive - and you didn't even do anything wrong, you were only listening!!
Our children feel the same way when they get nagged at or threatened. They go into survival mode in the fight-flight-freeze part of the brain, and the logic and reasoning part shuts down.
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Important Tips for Becoming a Therapeutic Parent
1. Don't take your childs behaviours personally.
2. Don't forget to take care of yourself - i.e. physical exercise and nutrition.
3. Don't forget to extend to yourself the same patience and grace you extend to your child.
4. Remember that the child's behaviours are based in fear (and sometimes shame), even though they may be expressed as anger, aggression, violence and rejection.
5. Remaining calm, regulated and positive yourself s the key to making any strategy successful.
6. If your child's behaviours are emotional triggers for you, seek counselling for yourself (and for your marriage)Ask your child's attachment therapist for recommendations.
7. Reach out to other parents for support, oth locally and through ATN.
8. Build respite (breaks from your child) into your family's life. This is important for each parent, for the parents ass a couple (date nights) and for parents to spend time with siblings.
9. Read, study and practice.
Taken from radzebra.org
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Spending time being fun and laughing is essential to bonding with your child. Children who view their parents as 'boring' or 'no fun' aren't going to put a lot of effort into wanting to get to playtime with Mom or Dad!
I've opened a new page on my website with fun, easy ideas for playtime. Be sure to check it out and add some exctitement to your day!
Remember to laugh and be goofy!
As Nancy says,
"If you aren't having fun, you aren't doing it right!"
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