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February 2016 Edition

This month, ABRI/ Homes for the Brave reached an incredible milestone: As of February 18, we have  served 1,000 homeless individuals! Thank you for everything you have done to help so many men and women complete their journeys to success.

In addition to this exciting accomplishment, we've spent the past month celebrating our CEO, Joy Kiss, who retires at the end of the month. Joy, her leadership, and her compassion will be sorely missed, and we wish her the best of luck as she enters the next chapter of her life.

Read more about Joy and all the love we received in February in this edition of The Perimeter.

Ode to Joy
A wise man (okay--our COO, John) once said that ABRI is synonymous with Joy Kiss. If you have met or worked alongside Joy during her fourteen-year tenure with the organization, you know this to be an indisputable truth.

Before 2002, Joy's entire career seems like a hand-selected collection of experiences that would ultimately prime her to play one very important part: Chief Executive Officer of ABRI/ Homes for the Brave.
 
In honor of her service to the Bridgeport community, Mayor Joe Ganim proclaimed February 29 to be Joy Kiss Day. 

Once a Nurse, Always a Nurse
When you ask Joy to tell you about her past, she tells you, "I started as a nurse and always will be a nurse."

Joy began her career as a staff nurse at Greenwich Hospital in 1968. She found hospital nursing to be her "true love," and within her first year, rose through the ranks to become the head nurse in the surgical unit. Once Joy's children were enrolled in school, she chose to become more actively involved in their education system. She left her position at the hospital to become a school nurse in her children's school district.

After serving as the school nurse in Fairfield and Guilford, she accepted a position with the New Haven Department of Health, and was chosen by her colleagues to represent them as the Local 884 Union Steward. To bring in extra income as her children approached college-age, Joy took a part-time position as a methadone-dispensing nurse at New Haven's APT Foundation. 

Joy admits that she came to APT with her own trepidations and personal prejudices about the types of individuals who fall into substance abuse. She learned quickly that addiction affects people from all walks of life, and that many of the nurses and counselors she worked alongside were in recovery themselves. "It was my first true exposure to people in recovery," Joy recalls. "I truly respected them and-considering the barriers they had been faced with-their ability to put substances aside and give back to other who are struggling."
 
The Turning Point
In 1993, Joy accepted a full-time position with the APT Foundation. Hungry to learn about her new field, Joy engaged in every continuing education opportunity she could find, and--under the guidance of her mentor, Geri Bryant--became a certified drug and alcohol counselor as well as a certified addiction nurse.

After serving as the nurse counselor for several years, Joy set her sights on management, hoping to have the opportunity to help others shape their careers the way Geri and Roz Liss (the former CEO of the APT Foundation) had helped her.

Joy left the Foundation to become the Nurse Manager of a 22-bed inpatient detox facility in New Haven. Joy never found satisfaction in this role, where she was constantly challenged by a defiant staff and little support from leadership. Every month, she told her mentors that she was miserable and planned to explore other opportunities. They advised her repeatedly to be patient and "hang in there" just a while longer. She blindly accepted their guidance, knowing that they always had her best interests in mind.

Finally, she received the call from Roz: "Fax me your resume."

A few days later, Joy spoke with the President of Applied Behavioral Rehabilitation Institute (ABRI), a new organization that Roz had co-founded. He said that he wanted to interview her for an open position at Homes for the Brave, a transitional housing program for homeless Vets. Joy remembers being appalled that there were Veterans who did not have a place to call home. She agreed to meet with him and accepted the job without hesitation.

Joy and friends in Homes for the Brave's early years

Homes for the Brave
Joy took her post as the HFTB Program Manager on July 15, 2002, just two weeks before the home's ribbon cutting. "This place was in shambles," she remembers. The living quarters and offices were empty, the grass hadn't been planted, the walls were half-painted, and the back yard was covered in piles of junk that were left after the building's renovation.

The staff scrambled to assemble furniture, assign office spaces, and make the grounds presentable. Luckily, the ribbon cutting went off without a hitch and attracted over 150 people from the community. With the ceremony behind her, Joy needed to address new problems. The staff struggled to fill beds, so Joy increased referrals by presenting to clinicians at the VA every month. The organization did not have any standard operating procedures in place, so Joy developed them, with much appreciated help from Roz. Then, a large state grant that ABRI was slated to receive fell through completely.

The organization was financially overextended, and the leadership team didn't know how they would pay the staff, let alone debts from the building's construction. Joy feared that without proper staff, funding, or clients to serve, Homes for the Brave would have to close its doors and displace the fourteen men who had entered the program.

Although she did not have development experience, Joy aggressively applied for grants and raised awareness for the organization by reaching out to civic groups, women's clubs, Veterans' organizations, and anyone who would lend their ear. Eventually, donations and grants came through, and census began to grow. By 2004, Joy was appointed Chief Executive Officer of the organization she had fought so hard to conserve.
 
2011 Golf Tournament 

New Frontiers
Once ABRI found itself on stable financial ground, the Board of Directors decided to expand. In 2006, the agency partnered with the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD) to open the Waldorf Permanent Supportive Housing Program for male Veterans and non-Veterans. Then, with the help of Bill & Shalini Madaras of the Kick for Nick Foundation and countless other community supporters, Joy and the Board set out to open Connecticut's first transitional housing program for female Veterans.

Although ABRI's vision received overwhelming support, its plan to rezone a single-family home as a multiple-unit residence was met with fierce opposition (you can follow the whole story here). After many late nights at City Hall and several denials, the prospect of providing a better life to female Veterans in need began to look bleak.

Finally, the right property came along and in November 2011, ABRI opened Female Soldiers: Forgotten Heroes at the PFC Nicholas A. Madaras House. Joy says that in the grand scheme of her career, this happy occasion was the icing on the cake.
 
Reflections
Joy finds it overwhelming to look back on the barriers she faced as ABRI's CEO, and the many individuals and organizations that helped her overcome them. But as she prepares to move on to the next chapter in her life, she can't help but reflect on some of her fondest memories from the past fourteen years.

It's no surprise that all of Joy's favorite moments are those that she's spent with the residents of HFTB and FS:FH. She glows as she reminisces about holiday parties, visits from past residents, and Memorial Day parades, where she was able to stand beside Vietnam Veterans as they finally received the warm welcome they deserved.
 
2005 Memorial Day Parade

What Comes Next
Although it is difficult to separate Joy's identity from all that she has achieved at Homes for the Brave, we know that she has more to accomplish. In retirement, Joy is looking forward to spending more time with her family and visiting America's charming southern cities.

She has been approached by various individuals to participate in new opportunities, but remains tight-lipped on the subject. She has disclosed, however, that she plans to continue serving a population for whom she has immeasurable respect. "Veterans will always, always hold a special place in my heart. What I'll do with that, I have some of my own thoughts. But initially, I'm going to take some time for myself and just take a deep breath."

At Joy's farewell party, over a dozen residents and staff members shared their gratitude for all that Joy has done for the Veteran and homeless Communities. 

To all of ABRI's supporters over the past fourteen years, Joy extends her eternal gratitude for making the organization what it is today. Time after time, she has been touched by the generosity you have shown to individuals that you don't even know, because you believe so deeply in our mission and their futures. 

And to our residents, Joy thanks you for teaching her something new every day. She admires your strength and respect for one another and believes that "no matter what obstacles you face in life, you can overcome them; it just takes work, perseverance, and the ability to ask for help."

To all future residents, Joy's advice is to simply give the program a chance and to believe that-if you do the right thing-someday, you will be okay.



Super Bowl 50
On Super Bowl Sunday, the Weston Kiwanis Club hosted an epic tailgate party at Homes for the Brave

With the help of their friends from Weston, the Weston Key Club, and the Bridgeport Kiwanis Club, the group decorated our Christel Room and served enough food to feed, well, an army!

Thank you, Weston Kiwanis, for giving us a wonderful celebration to look forward to every year.



Valentine's Day
Throughout the month of February, our residents received beautiful handmade valentines and personal visits from our friends throughout the community. 



For our female soldiers, the National Charity League New Canaan Chapter brought Valentine's Day baskets full gifts, cards, decorations, and essentials. 



Congressman Himes's office participated in its annual Valentines for Veterans campaign, for which the staff collected hundreds of cards and delivered them to our residents. They stayed for a visit and checked out some of James's artwork.


On Feb. 16, our dear friend Christel Truglia turned 80 years old, and chose to celebrate her birthday by hosting a Valentine's Day dinner at Homes for the Brave. In turn, our residents surprised her with gifts, cards, and a beautiful birthday cake.


Thank you to everyone who made our Valentine's Day so sweet!

Giving Back
Homes for the Brave Residents Cook for Students

Every other week, local students from buildOn volunteer to cook dinner for our residents. This month, the men showed their appreciation by returning the favor. 

On Feb. 15, residents from Homes for the Brave   invited the volunteers over for a homemade soul food luncheon, for which they planned, shopped, and prepared for days. 

While the designated chefs put the finishing touches on the meal, the students challenged the guys to a series of board games. After enjoying a delicious lunch, both parties expressed their appreciation for their bond, which continues to grow week after week.

"It feels so amazing to know how happy we make the veterans," said buildOn volunteer, Casandra Santiago. "We always have such a good time playing games and telling each other jokes." 




Assumption School Soup Drive



The students and staff at Our Lady of Assumption School truly outdid themselves this year. Breaking their own record, this determined group collected 1,250 cans of soup for their annual Homes for the Brave soup drive.

Thank you, Assumption School, for your continued care and kindness toward our residents.


Racing for a Cause
 
This spring, wonder-woman Ursula Malizia is running two half marathons to raise awareness and funding for our homeless Veterans: 
 
United Airlines NYC Half: Sunday, March 20
Greenwich Cup Half Marathon: Sunday, April 10

Ursula's efforts are dedicated to her father, Frank L. Richards, who passed away in November due to service-related illnesses. You can read Ursula's story and support her mission by visiting her fundraising page

Go Ursula!

Sincerely,
  

The Board of Directors & Staff at ABRI/Homes for the Brave.

In This Month's Issue...
Ode to Joy
Super Bowl 50
Valentine's Day
Giving Back

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Shout Outs

AWARE CT

Breanna Joy Hayes Memorial Fund at the CT Community Foundation

Bridgeport Elks

Bridgeport Kiwanis Club

buildOn

Calvary Church Episcopal Church  Women

City of Shelton Finance Department

Community Plates

Congressman Jim Himes

DRP Flexpak

Huntington VFW Post 10466

Kick for Nick Foundation

Knights of Columbus Cabrini Assembly 136

Knights of Columbus Saint Patrick Church

National Charity
 League  New Canaan Chapter

Newman's Own Foundation

Notre Dame High School

Our Lady of the Assumption School

People's United Bank IT Department

People's United Community Foundation

Rock of Waterbury Sunday School

Samourkas Foundation

Trumbull Community Women

Trumbull High School French Club

Tyrrell Middle School

The Valley Boys

Valley Container, Inc.

VFW Post 399 Ladies Auxiliary

Weston Kiwanis Club

Windsor Locks Youth Services



Tributes

In Memory of Frank L. Richards