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Oftentimes, it's hurt and pain that we find beneath anger. And sometimes anger hides shame. Shame is a deep-rooted feeling driven by the distress of banishment or expulsion. Anger is an emotion that allows us to focus outwardly, which can perpetuate the unexamined, unwanted pain or shame felt within. Anger can be a substitute; rather than dealing with the...
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Dear Colleagues,
As we are getting used to this new year, I want to embrace the most important New Year's Resolution we all can commit to, and it's rewarding rather than draining.
It's open-hearted connection, sharing, and belonging. Surprisingly, these qualities, while more important in humans than in any other species, are in fact also vital to all mammals - yes all mammals, and that includes rats, beasts, even skunks.
In the human being, there's endless data supporting the importance of inclusion, caring, and a regard for each other. Addiction, a serious source of suffering that's now running rampant across our culture, represents a byproduct of the absence of care bonds - attachment bonds - and the presence of painful, distress of loss of or the utter lack of bonding and connection in early childhood. The loss or lack of LOVE, if you will. Loss of connection is experienced as "distress" in mammalian emotional biology. Distress is the unbearable wail of pain felt when we lose important connections - when life-sustaining connection is lost. As
Dr. Mark Schwartz (formerly of Masters and Johnsons and now an advisor for Enneagram Prison Project) puts it, "Addictive disorders are intimacy disorders."
In addition to the importance of connection, which we are programmed to need for development, is the vital importance of what mammalian biologists term "care." Even heroin addicts, after being removed from threatening, isolating, and painful situations and bonded with others in supportive care, heal without medical treatment. They actually heal with "care" treatment.
Making care, bonding, and connection a mandate in our lives is an imperative for our health, well-being, and internal peace. Take some time to reach out to those you love, to those who are suffering, to those who are isolated. This will not only nurture your own needs for care, but may just heal another too.
While you are there, take advantage of the many other articles and content available to you on my website, including a daily meditation for each type structure that you can enjoy.
WEEKLY REFLECTIONS
The weekly reflections, plagued with MalWare are on their way back to health! We'll hopefully be launching those again soon, and with them far more protected than they were before!
DO YOUR BEST
Make your own growth, toward wholeness, your most important personal commitment this year. I work on this daily, as best I can, and I hope you will too.
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INTERVIEW for Meridian University on the Enneagram, Relationships and Transformation
I had a wonderful and comprehensive interview with professor Aftab Omer of Meridian University this past November. The topic was, "The Enneagram, Relationships, and Transformation: An Exploration.
A listener recently shared, "I have just watched the recording. What an amazing conversation! I very much appreciated Aftab's depth of questions, and David's heartfelt responses!"
Simply register for free and enjoy!
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