Are You a Do-Do Giver?
I know what you are thinking, "Boy, that's an inappropriate title!" However, it is not what you think. I am not referring to giving gag-gifts in an effort to get a laugh or be amused by someone's silly reaction. I am referring to a thought I had the other day about the purpose or intent behind the gifts I choose to give this year.
I was listening to someone speak when I had what was initially a shallow thought that turned out to be rather profound. The thought had to do with all the holiday celebrations and the related gift giving.
Whether it is Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or some other gift-giving occasion which typically employs some form of exchange of presents, I think it is important to stop and spend a few minutes assessing my personal intentions or objective.
Every year, I get caught up in the "Dos" of the holidays. By that, I mean, I "do" have to show up for the party regardless of whether or not I wish to go, I "do" fret over how I am dressed for the occasion even though I would prefer to be in sweats, I "do" have to make sure I am giving a gift that is of equal or greater value and therefore spend a lot of effort asking for hints of what the other party might be giving, I "do" spend a large amount of time searching for what I think will be the perfect gift even though the other person may not even appreciate the time that was spent, I "do" make a list and check it more than twice even though I have never seen that rule in writing, and I "do" stress over the method of presentation or whether the wrapping is done just the right way as to garner an acceptable response for what will end up in the trash.
Anxiety, stress, concern, nervousness, agitation, and tension were not supposed to be a part of the original deal. I think that is because we have taken something so pure and simple, and have managed to muddle it with perfect success. Time for me to take a step back and think about it a little differently this year.
Don't get me wrong, I still plan on giving nice gifts that are well thought out, but I just don't believe that I will be placing as much emphasis on the "dos" this year without fully thinking it through and making sure it meets my original objective. I also think I am going to try to constantly remind myself that the best gifts of all are those that don't cost me anything, lending a listening ear and spending quality time together. These are the only two "dos" I think I am going to practice.
Let me know what you think. Have a great holiday season regardless of what or when you are celebrating!
Dr. Scott Beck, coordinator