If you wish to build those muscles in your mind and change your life, find 2-4 pieces of paper (no scraps!) and take the
time to write down the following:
Things you are:
Interested In
Fascinated By
Excited About
Enthusiastic About
Appreciate
Admire
Love
Find Beautiful
Find Brilliant
Find Inspiring
And then add:
Any Dreams and Desires not include above!
Note: This list may include places, people, locations, artists, colors, agriculture, cultures, teachers, situations, heroes, memories, ideas, spirituality, physics, nature, politics, fashion, music, paradigms, artistic endeavors, books, wealth, food, relationships, etc. etc. etc.
If your critical voice (we all have one) says: "I don't have time! This is foolish!" Ignore that voice.
As you begin to engage in this exercise, notice how you feel. For many, it is kind of -- dare I say -- fun! I have had clients smile from ear to ear. (Feeling good by the way IS good. Most of us fail to listen to that feeling, which is our natural guidance system. But more on this in a future newsletter.)
Once you have finished a first go-around, take a moment to acknowledge that the list is Unique to You. No one else in the whole world will have the same list. I think that is cool. Don't you?
The next step is to intentionally begin to focus on the items on this list. Place copies of the list in all the obvious places: refrigerator, billfold/purse, workplace, computer file, smart phone, bathroom mirror, bedside table. Consciously and intentionally read about your interests and desires and fascinations, and do so often. Enjoy them. Think about them. Add to the list as you discover new interests or you remember an old interest long forgotten.
Why?
What we focus on, expands. And if the focus is on what inspires, interests, excites you, and on what you love, admire and find brilliant, then your life will change. Some stuff won't disappear (like your job, the weather, politics, weeds), but life will inevitably become more fun and more interesting.
As for happiness?
Stuart Wilde, a well-known writer and coach, was asked this question by a member in one of his workshops: how can I be a happier person? He replied with this question: "What do you love doing?" She told him several things she loved to do, and he said: "Do more of that."
Now that you have your list, go ahead. Explore your interests. Do what you love.
"All the animals except for man know that the principle business of life is to enjoy it." Samuel Butler
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