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December 2013
Christmas and Grief
Memories by Joy
Tools for Coping
Practice Exercise

Coping with Grief during the Holiday Season

 

To find the buoyancy in the darkness, I suggest the following:

  • Stay close with how you feel and what you need.
  • Have a general plan with how you're going to look after yourself throughout the holiday season.
  • Allow for a balance between feeling the rawness of your emotions and coping by distraction.
  • Honour the part of yourself that hurts.
  • Send your blessing to your loved one.
About Beverley Pugh

Bev Pugh

"Every joy is gain. And gain is gain, however small." 

- Robert Browning

 

Beverley has been a practicing counsellor for over 30 years. She has worked extensively in Canada, Australia, Japan, and Thailand. Beverley currently has a full-time practice on the North Shore. Beverley has a highly intuitive ability to help people uproot core issues that are holding them back from moving forward to where they want to be in terms of their own self-growth. She works extensively with couples and families and individuals with numerous presenting issues.

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Christmas and Grief

 

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"Finding some buoyancy in the darkness." ~ Beverley Pugh

 

Christmas can be a tough time for those of us who have experienced the passing of a loved one. I received an email from a man whose wife passed this fall. They have three children under the age of 15. He is reaching out for help as he is dreading the Christmas season. I know so many of us have experienced the loss of a loved one, and Christmas stirs up a great deal of sadness.

 

When a loved one passes, it rocks our whole foundation. Everything, as we know it, is different. There can be such a weight of heaviness. Read more

This month's guest article is written by Joy. She shares with us how she coped with the first Christmas after her son, Adam, passed. Thank you Joy for sharing such a meaningful experience with us.

Memories by Joy

 

There was no celebrating Christmas as usual last year, for we'd lost our beloved son Adam the previous January, and the memories were wrenching. Our older son announced that instead of coming home, he would spend Christmas with his girlfriend's family, which we understood and felt would be better for him. But that left us. So we resolutely turned our backs and visited very dear friends far away who knew our sons well. At the time, I thought of us as escaping from a dwelling of despair, but now I think we were actually escaping to a haven of caring and acceptance - friends whom we enjoyed spending time with, who could reminisce about Adam at Christmases past, and who weren't bothered if we teared up when we did. Read More

Tools for Coping

Feeling Calm Within If you or someone you know is struggling, they may benefit from my CD released this past year called "Feeling Calm Within". It is a one and a half hour talk on various tools we can all use to de-stress ourselves, calm anxiety, and quieten our minds. Download or CD $29 each.

 

The Laughing and Breathing Belly Audio Workshop Another album I released this year was for children and parents. It was called "The Laughing and Breathing Belly" for children ages 7 to 10. It is an empowerment workshop to teach children five tools they can use to calm themselves when they feel overstimulated, anxious, or fearful. Download $19.95, CD $29.00.

 

If you are interested please reply to this email, or cal Bev at 604-925-1513 or visit the store on my website.
All the best from 2013,
Bev 
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